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Life can be tough! If school is pants, you’re trying to figure out who you are and parents are stressing you out… then why wouldn’t you feel down on the world? But that’s rubbish if it means you feel bad about yourself, lose confidence or can’t bounce back.
The #littlebluebookofsunshine explains some of the things you can do right now to feel better, or who to turn to if things feel too much. You can pick up a copy at school, download a copy to your phone or simply read some of the great advice below. Just click the subject line to reveal top tips and useful links.
In a crisis or an emergency
Call 0300 365 0300 if you have urgent concerns about a mental health problem. Call 999 if you are worried about your immediate safety, or go straight to the nearest Accident and Emergency department.
It’s natural to feel down, anxious or stressed out at times. It doesn’t automatically mean that you’ve got a mental illness, or that you’re at risk of one in future.
Some people break a leg or need their appendix taken out. Some people will get a mental illness during their life. It happens, no one is to blame. It can be difficult to talk about though...
Try to remember...
Is there anything in the list below that’s making you worried about your mental health?
It’s not always obvious what things affect our mental health. If that feels scary, talk to your teacher or another trusted adult and ask for help as soon as possible.
If you think you need to talk about how you’re feeling, then it’s a good idea to do that.
Talk with a trusted adult at school, at home, or any clubs you’re involved with. If you’re not sure whether to say something, ask yourself:
If any of these sound a bit like you, then it’s a good idea to ask for help. Write your thoughts down so it’s easier to explain things.
You could even get yourself along to your GP surgery. Did you know you can visit your doctor on your own about any issue to do with your physical or mental health?
Everyone gets stressed at some point in their life, though it affects people differently. A little stress can be a good thing as it can provide the motivation to get something done.
Stress becomes a problem when it feels greater than your ability to cope. You might feel sad or tearful, anxious or worried, angry or unable to concentrate. Sometimes stress makes it hard to eat or sleep properly. You might even get physical pains.
Being stressed for a long time is bad for your health.
DEALING WITH STRESS
My name is…
Say hello to the things that are stressing you out. Write them down, crossing out anything that’s unlikely to happen.
A problem shared…
Have a rant, have a cry, thump a cushion. Message a friend or talk to an adult you trust.
Take a walk in the park, load a playlist, or pick up a book.
Make a list…
List the top 5 most important things you need to do today. Tick them off as you complete each one.
You might not feel like it but exercise and sport make a big difference to your wellbeing.
Smiling makes other people feel better and changes our own mood too.
There’s lots more to find out about managing stress at www.mind.org.uk/stress
Getting angry is part of being human. We all do it and, just like stress, a little bit of it can be good
Anger can defend you from danger, help get an important point across, or motivate you to make a change. Anger isn’t good if it harms you or the people around you. If you’re shouting, throwing stuff, hurting others (or yourself) then that’s harmful behaviour. Anger can contribute to mental health problems, and make existing problems worse.
You can find out more about anger at www.youngminds.org.uk
DEALING WITH ANGER
Look inside yourself…
Knot in your stomach? Heart beating fast? Clenching your jaw? Knowing the early warning signs of anger means you can do something
Take yourself out of the situation you are in and walk away.
Calming music, exercise, or doodling are all good ways to distract yourself from your thoughts. You could even try a cold shower!
Don’t damage your things, hurt yourself or others. Get rid of some energy by thumping a pillow instead, or tearing up a magazine.
Anywhere but here…
Where is your happy place? What do you like about it? Close your eyes and imagine you’re there.
Breathe slowly by inhaling through one nostril, then out the other. Repeat slowly until you feel calmer.
Ever seen Die Hard? Try making fists with your toes!
Mindfulness can be a good way to control anger. Find out about this at www.bemindful.co.uk
Things like exams, leaving school, job interviews or even changes at home can make you feel anxious. It’s a normal biological reaction.
Signs of anxiety include feeling fearful, finding it hard to concentrate or make decisions, being restless or edgy, or even going to the loo a lot.
You might even find it hard to sleep, eat or concentrate for a little while, but the worries should stop.
For some people, anxiety doesn’t go away so easily. They might experience panic attacks or feel that they’re worrying all the time about everything. Talk to your teacher or GP if your anxiety feels overwhelming.
DEALING WITH ANXIETY
Many of the tips on this page for dealing with anger and stress will also help you to manage your anxiety.
Time to talk…
Talking to a trusted adult or a friend who is a good listener can really help. They might have had the same worries, or know of someone else who did.
Read a self-help book…
Self-help books help a lot of people with their anxiety. Overcoming Anxiety by Helen Kennerley is a good one.
Sometimes it’s easier to text someone to say how you’re feeling, even if they’re in the next room!
We all have times when our mood is low, and we’re feeling sad or miserable. Usually these feelings pass after a short time.
If a low mood lasts for a long time and affects your everyday life, then it could be a sign that you’re experiencing depression.
If you think you’re experiencing depression then it’s important to talk to a trusted adult.
You can read more about depression in young people here www.amh.org.uk/news/depression-in-young-people
Make a gratitude jar…
Write down the things that make you happy and place them in the jar ready to read whenever you’re feeling low.
Listen to Dr Chris…
Try out this short audio guide from NHS Moodzone if you’re feeling down or depressed – www.bit.ly/lbbos_depression
Other things you can do…
Regular sleep, exercise and keeping to a healthy diet can help you feel more in control and more able to cope.
Self-help books can be really helpful too. You can borrow Am I Depressed? by Shirley Reynolds and Monika Parkinson from your local library.
When to seek help immediately
If you feel like your life isn't worth living, or that you want to harm yourself, ask for help straight away. Organisations like Childline and the Samaritans are there to help you, not judge. Call the Samaritans for free on 116 123
It can be hard to be body confident when our bodies are changing and it feels like everyone is obsessed about people’s appearance.
Swiping through Instagram just shows you images that have been Photoshopped, filtered and posed.
But take a look around, there’s no ‘right’ way of looking, we’re all different shapes, sizes and colours.
Sometimes worry, stress or a negative body image can result in unhealthy behaviour towards exercise or food.
The following things can be a sign of a serious eating problem that could put your health at risk.
DEALING WITH BODY IMAGE AND EATING ISSUES
Love and accept your body. Look in the mirror, what are the three things you like?
Listen to your body…
Your body wants to be exercised, and nourished. Exercise for fun, not beauty and aim for three main meals a day and three nutritious snacks.
The right role models…
Try not to be influenced by other people skipping meals or commenting on weight. Be careful about the websites you visit and the people you follow.
If you’re worried about your eating or exercise habits, or feel that you need to keep them secret, then it’s a good idea to talk to someone you trust.
Relationships should make us feel cherished and safe. Some relationships are better for us than others.
A healthy relationship...
shows mutual respect, honesty, trust and emotional support.
An unhealthy relationship...
doesn’t make you feel good about yourself or makes you unhappy.
An abusive relationship...
Might involve physical, emotional or sexual abuse – it can happen online, on your phone or in person.
Abusive relationships can make you feel controlled, violated, or forced to do something you don’t want to do.
Bullying, stalking and sexting are all abusive.
If you’re worried about an abusive relationship then call Childline in confidence on 0800 1111.
TOP TIPS FOR RELATIONSHIPS
Other people’s reactions are not about us, they are about them. Aim to be the best you can be in your relationships by being honest, inclusive and open.
In an abusive relationship?
Abusive or controlling relationships are never OK. Scroll down this page for loads of useful links, or call Childline for advice at any time on 0800 1111.
If you can bounce back from the ups and downs of life then you’re more likely to seek out new experiences and opportunities.
Things that help you bounce back aren’t always just to do with you…
Make a difference to others
Look out for a friend, join a club or volunteer your time. It builds your self-esteem and expands the network of people looking out for you.
Say no to negativity
Challenge that internal monologue. A poor report doesn’t mean that you’re rubbish. The image in the mirror is uniquely you… loads of people think that you’re fabulous!
Find that trusted adult
There are people who love you and want to help. It’s OK if it’s not easy or possible to talk to one of your parents. Who are the other adults in your family, community or school who could step in and support you instead?
There is always someone there to help. Just ask.
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